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Reiss's Pieces I think that of all the jobs in the world, being a Mother is one of the most difficult. Although every species needs to have and does have a mother, for many that means that the mother just births those babies. And this means that these babies just bring themselves up to adulthood and the whole process starts all over again. For the human race, this is not the rule....hopefully! A human mother doesn_t have the opportunity to take a course in how to be a mother or how to parent. Even though some schools do offer an opportunity for young women to learn what is expected of them, it just isn_t enough and it really is too complex and difficult a job to learn how to succeed in a few months for less than an hour a session. Actually the best way to learn how to be a good mother is to have one! And a good grandmother only makes it even better. Unfortunately, that is not always the case, and a young woman has to learn the ropes by jumping right in and hoping that they are correct. But if we look at the world today, we see that for some reason, motherhood is no longer considered important enough to give it the time, effort and education that it needs. Someone, probably a bureaucratic man, decided that anyone can parent a child and that due to our financial woes in this country, the mother has to go to work and the job of bringing up her child is left to strangers. Of course, the best care giver, other than the mother, is the grandmother. She already has experience and also has the common sense needed to rear (and discipline) a child that is so desperately lacking in today_s society. What is difficult with this scenario is most grandmothers thought that they were done raising their children and looked forward to free time and retirement. They never anticipated that they would have to start child-raising all over again. It isn_t that they don_t love their grandchildren, it is just that they weren_t prepared to begin again. But they do, and take their job just as seriously as they did the first time around. And then, of course, the mother has to drag home from her out-of-the- home job and begin the "mother process," just as she needs to rest and relax. Almost all children know who their mother is and because they are needy and young, find it hard to cut their mother any slack when she gets home. Although no mother wants to be considered a part-timer, she finds it hard to continue her day as involved and cheerful to her children, even though they desperately need her. After checking homework, finding out how their day went, making dinner, being sure that the wash was done and is now in the dryer and putting the children to bed, believe me, Mom is pooped! And where is Dad in this scenario? Well, if he is a member of the family, and many aren_t, he is probably napping on the sofa because he has had a very hard day!! All Mothers need and deserve to be acknowledged for their overwhelming and mind-boggling lifestyle. This untrained woman wants and needs to be a good mother. She is also told that she must be a good wife, a terrific lover, a house-cleaner extraordinaire, an excellent employee, the house doctor/nurse, the perfect fan of whatever it is that their children play and participate in and God forbid, if she should complain. What needs to be done to bring the mother back to her pedestal where she belongs? It will never happen, so don_t bother to ponder on the thought too much. But what can be done, particularly on this Mother_s Day, is to be sure and let your mother know what a Queen she is! This doesn_t have to include flowers, candy or other gifts, although it wouldn_t hurt! Most mothers just want to know that they are loved and appreciated and that can be done with a hug and a kiss. And don_t forget about Grandmother, Granny, or Nana either. Truthfully, these women all rock the cradle that keeps the world moving. And one day a year isn_t quite enough, but it is better than nothing! And what about the woman who has no children or grandchildren and still takes the time and makes the effort to help guide the children of her friends and her neighborhood? Let her know that her ability to care, nurture and love is appreciated. I know that you all know one of these women, and I also know that you aren_t so busy that you can_t take the time to help them celebrate their day this Sunday. Remember, they help you celebrate every single day of your life and it won_t take much time out of your self-absorbed and busy schedule to let them know how much you care. Do it, and you will find that it is like casting bread upon the waters and you will reap much more than you sow. And to those of you who are mothers, take the day off and remember how special you are and how important you are not just to your family but to your community, your state, your country and the world. Without mothers there would be absolutely nothing, and your role is the most important of all. Happy Mother_s Day! | ||
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